The below poem really captures the essence and beauty of our NVC Couples Retreat at Sharda last weekend. Duncan wrote this for his Soul mate / other half / wife, Alice. Thank you Duncan and Alice for being okay for us to share your wonderful words.
Dunco For Alice
I wouldn’t like to call you Soul Mate
That phrase which means we don’t differ on anything, Never arguing
But if it means we’re close, Like the sun and the wind
Then you must be my soul mate
I’d shudder if you called me your Other Half
Wondering which half I was and which half you were
But if it meant I miss you when we are apart
If it meant I like your company and you like mine Like paradise ducks do
Then I must be your other half
I don’t often refer to you as My Wife In the possessive sense
But if it meant friend, ally, lover, hoa rangatira all-in-one
Like the way trees gather together to create, to weather the storm, To admire one another
Then you must be my wife
I usually mention your name; Alice
And someone sometimes says who?
And I say oh a friend
But if I mean valiant, compassionate, defiant, truth-seeking, beauty Like the earth herself
Then you must be Alice
Written by Duncan Hill ( A great friend who attended our NVC Couples retreat)